Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Summer? Wow, you're here - and you're already half-way gone!!

Oops, I almost forgot that I have a blog! I promise to post a wrap-up of the last few months soon. Jeez, life moves fast sometimes.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Just so you know

... I'm tweeting. Twittering. Whatever. lol



:D

Monday, March 9, 2009

A Guest Appearance By... Me!

Monkey Wrench is a Foo Fighters tribute band based out of Long Island, NY. They've been at it for 4 years or so, and have been featured on MTV, on "24 Hours of Foo" when the Foo Fighters got to "own" MTV for a day. Monkey Wrench was brought in to play a couple Foo songs, ON FOO'S EQUIPMENT!

This band is highly regarded amongst cover acts. I heard about them coming to Syracuse (not too far from Canandaigua) and immediately started a dialogue with them. After a bit of conversation with the bass player, I found out that I may get the chance to guest on drums for a track or two!

The result follows. Mind you, I had one day of practice for the song I was prepared for, no practice or preparation for the second song (which I didn't do so well at, lol), had the jitters, my sticks were new and heavier than what I was used to, and, well, I was excited!



Someone on a Foo Fighters forum called the performance "uninspired". What? My hits, though a millisecond late a few times, were dead-on and HARD, and the band filled out the performance perfectly on "Floaty" which is a mid-tempo song. Hardly uninspired.

More later. I'm hungry; it's 8:18 and I have meatloaf staring at me.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

CAT Scan

I just had a CAT can, my first in this new Remission Era of my life.

Let's hope for the best; I'd really like to not replay 2007 & 2008 over again.

Saturday, February 28, 2009

On Ice

So today I spent some fun boy time with Jack... just me and him, a car and a few hours.

First we walked on frozen Keuka Lake.



It was reeeeally cold out when we embarked on our lake ice journey. But we went really far out onto the lake and got to check out how ice fishermen operate.

Walking on that ice game me an idea. Let's go to the ice-skating rink!



This was Jack's first time ice skating. He stared in some degree of wonderment at all the little kids with their hockey equipment on. When we got out on the ice, he got progressively better minute by minute... he fell a lot, and I think he laughed his butt off before he could skate it off.

... I think we laughed our butts off pretty much all day.

Good times.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Finally a New Post

So...

WORKY WORKY:

I'm TRYING to work full-time now. Since December, I've been doin' the 40 hr a week thang... I did miss one day when I was sick, but other than that I've kinda been able to prove to myself that I'm strong enough to be back in reality.

I dig the job in some ways. Good pay, health insurance, and I'm utilizing my creativity.

But the office is soul-crushing. It's so quiet. I'm in a cubicle with the engineers, and they pretty much work in silence all day. Plus nobody really has a sense of humor... at least not a modern one.

I try and shake things up when I can, but it's often met with silence.

Ugh. Why do I feel like I'm so out there compared to everybody?

Why's everyone so damn serious?

Screw serious!

Life sucks without humor, jokes, laughing, LOOSENESS and fun.

But everyone around me has large sticks up their respective asses.

I try and pull the sticks out of their asses, but they like them there.

.... If I leave the organization, it'll be because of that stuff.

I am me, I like me, I like how I am, how I talk, what I say, what I do, and how I do it.

I'm 30, I know who I am, I don't need to alter anything major about myself, as I know my priorities, I know what I have to take care of, I know who I love who I like, what I like, and what I don't.

...

So yeah, work. Yay.


LIFE/FAMILY:

Home life is interesting right now. Crawling out of financial sinkholes isn't fun, but once your head and shoulders is out of the crap, things seem better.

The kids, the kids, the kids. They put the biggest smiles on my face. They're here right now for the weekend. Awesome people they are.

It's been a year since my Nana passed. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her, and all the moments that we shared. She's one of the only people that I've loved every moment of my life... there was never a time that I didn't love her one million percent, there was never a moment that I wouldn't move mountains for her if she asked. What a wonderful woman she was. I love how she spoke, how she cooked, her laugh... ahhh man. Shit. I miss you, Nana. YOU made me who I am. YOU were such a force in my life. Nobody but me can understand that, and that's ok. You're awesome, Nana.

...

MUSIC:

My buddy John came over the other day, and we recorded a song he wrote.

http://www.myspace.com/lowfiemphatic

It's a live recording, and it came out pretty good, especially for only the third time we'd ever played it together, and the fifth time John had ever played it.

I also organized my music concepts that I'd recorded on my 4-track, and I mp3'ed them... I'm gonna turn some of them into legit songs. Right now I call the group of songs "the cancer tapes" as over half of them were recorded when I was going through chemo.

Low-Fi/Emphatic's 2009 album "Revenge of the Year" will feature more guest appearances. 2006's "Tooth and Nail" was just me.

And "Tooth and Nail" is still relevant. The words still hold true.


NISSAN MAXIMAS:

The white Maxima's fine. I love it to death. The black Maxima... well I'm saving up money to get the transmission installed. I can't wait to drive my black car again. It may be a base model Maxima, but hey, ANY Maxima is a nice car.

ETC:

We kept a Muffin kitten named Boston, he's awesome.

I think I need to try breathe-right strips.

I absolutely LOVE broiling swordfish.

My new office has showers and a workout room.

I'm gonna buy my old drum set back (when I get some extra cash... like $100-$150)

I gotta update my wardrobe... my khakis are tired.

Saturday, December 13, 2008

A Car as an Antithesis, Furnaces, and Toughness

[THERE USED TO BE A PIC OF A DEER-DAMAGED MAXIMA RIGHT HERE]

Beautiful, isn't it?

We hit a deer on election night, and so our white Maxima had to sit in the shop for a month. We got it back and it had ore problem, so it went back for a few days. That last trip sucked because I had just started working again, BOOM suddenly we were down to ZERO cars.

Why zero? Because the night before Thanksgiving, my Black Maxima's transmission died. What an expensive heartache. And though my mom (thanks!) helped out by giving Anne and I some fundage to get it taken care of, we still have nowhere near enough.

So yeah, zero cars. That was bad times. But it's over now; we now have ONE. But dang, the black one is a heck of an expensive paperweight.

So why does the white one look so pimp now?

Well, during better times I bought a set of Nissan 350Z rims for $250 plus shipping from a guy on Maxima.org... and they have sat around waiting for an opportunity to be needed... and boom, I started needing a new set of tires that could function in the winter. So while the car was getting put back together ($6500 in damage, ouch!) I dropped the rims off and had some tires sent over.

Another difference is the headlights. The shop found a set of aftermarket units that were less expensive than the OEM units, so they bought the instead. They're called "halo projectors". Like newer BMW's they have a ring of light around the high and low beams. They're also transparent with black backgrounds. They look great on this car.

The wreck also caused the need for a new fender, hood and bumper.

So now the white car looks newer then it really is, and honestly I think it makes some '09 models look dated.

The white car is our antithesis. Nice tires and rims, leather, sunroof, heated seats, Bose stereo, aftermarket exhaust... I mean heck we have to not only buy Bologna right now, but the CHEAP bologna, but we're driving around in a nice custom Maxima! lol

... So yeah, the white car is all fixed up but is gonna cost us some coin due to extra trips to the shop, and the black car is gonna have to get taken off the road and will be stored at home while we save up to get a transmission and have it installed.

... And our furnace died the other night... we were asking "why us?" but took it with a sense of humor, as the repair guy came he next morning and fixed the furnace with no charge to us.

I'm feeling a bit better every day, and am distancing myself more and more from the sickness I went through.

And although I may speak less about what I went through, I'll never doubt that I am tough. I beat a few types of cancer!!

Knowing that I was able to do such a thing fuels me in the journey of making a new life for myself. I have so much less self-doubt, and I know that if I was able to be tough in the face of death, then I can be tough about anything.

.... Oh, and the kids are doing great, growing fast. I have lots to work on as dad (my son's self-confidence, my daughter's body image and discipline, etc...) and I'm happy to finally be healthy enough to commit to those things 1000000%.

Lily is clearly her father's daughter in the way that she approaches life from a bit of a different angle than most... but she executes it better than I.

And Jack, well his gentleness, politeness, willingness to help others and joyousness regardless of the circumstances reminds me of myself at that age. I just hope that he inherits Adrienne's toughness rather than my penchant for being easy to pick on.


... Oh and Muffin's doing pretty good as well. Due to her one-night escape, she had another litter of kittens a couple weeks ago, and so now we have five happy and healthy kittens. I think we'll keep one to accompany Muffin. She enjoys the attention I give her now, and loves to come and beg every time I eat at the coffee table. She even hangs out on the couch with us occasionally, and the bed too. She's finally starting to be a nice house cat!


Maybe 2009 will turn out just fine.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Thank You

[EDITED]

Basically this used to say:

"I was supposed to die.  But I held on, and I beat cancer.  Many thanks to everyone who supported me during this battle."

Monday, October 27, 2008

THE LAST TIME

This is the last time I'll pee red from Adriamycin.

This is the last time I'll smell my chemo drugs in every breath I take.

This is the last time I'll have to lay on the couch or in bed for days at a time to allow the chemo drugs to do their job.

This is the last time I'll have IV fluids administered nightly while I'm on the couch.

This is the last time I lose all my hair.

This is the last time I become too short of breath to go upstairs quickly.

This is the last time I feel so icky that I don't like touching anybody or anything.

This is the last time that I'll feel like reality is days away.

This is the last time I'll cry from pain that I can't explain.

This is the last time I can't see my kids because I'm too sick.

This is the last time I have to rely on eveyone else for everything.

This is the last time I'm held back in life.

This is the last time I have to be a passenger becasue I can't drive.

This is the last time.
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Not doin' too bad...

Hm, I got a couple things done today, didn't have blood pressure/passing out problems, wasn't too pukey, and didn't depress myself on the couch.

A good day.

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Thankful for my...

 


Couch

Peaches & Cream Oatmeal
Friends who asked me to be in thier wedding
Sunny Bay window
Episodes of Weeds and Rescue Me
Samsung Blackjack (I'm tryin' to keep in touch!)
Bed
Mornings with Anne
Health Insurance
Kids
Family
Other Friends
Anti-Nausea stuff (I've taken various measures)
Nissan Maxima x2
Nice House
Media PC
Moms
Dads

Couch
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At the moment, chemo is making me feel...



Ehh, could be worse. The broken-glass stomach feeling could have lasted all day, not 3 hours. The overall body and peripheral pain could have lasted a lot longer than a couple hours as well. The violent nausea? Haven't puked yet but the violence has caused 50% of my tiredness due to the muscle contractions.

Hydration SOOO helps. Thanks, Anne.


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Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Real Quick - What's up

Kids:

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Doing great. School is working out wonderfully for both of them. I anticipate having a greater role in their studies once I've fully recovered. They're both growing so fast that it scares me. ... And still every day I'm confounded that something so great as them could come from me.

Cancer:

- Aunt Bobby:

I traveled to Florida (thanks Mom) to see my Aunt Bobby who has an advanced stage of cancer. She's been through a lot already in the last couple years, but is about to experience a lot of firsts, including chemo. ...So I went to her house, hung out with her for the day, and wrote her a six-page document detailing some basics covering her prospective needs during her first chemo sessions. The document is also for the others in our family who also need some perspective on Bobby, and covers things like giving her nothing but love, simplifying her environment physically and verbally, and details most of the chemo drugs that she'll likely be receiving (thanks Anne). I've spoken at length with each of Bobby's closest relatives in hopes that everyone offers only love, assigns themselves helpful roles, and 1000% disregards any and all of the past, which is irrelevant at this point.

During my visit many of my aunts and an uncle got together one night for dinner and some drinks. It was a wonderful time for all.

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Thanks Aunt Boo! Amy, Anne, Dad, Ma, Mom, and Nick I wish you could have been there! And of course Nana G, you were on all of our minds and always will be.


The Dog:


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Yes, the dog, our new dog Mayia fell to cancer. Diagnosis was swift, as was her humane departure. We only had her for a month, but she had already become an important part of our household. We will miss the thwap-thwap of her tail, her "I am so happy to be here" smile and her gentleness. We loved you, Mayia, thank you for gracing our home with your presence and enjoying the end of your life with us. We can only hope you died happy. I scratched your ears and said your favorite things as you faded out.

Me:

I just had a chemo treatment yesterday, my 5th round of CAV. Luckily I'm not feeling too bad except for a general, manageable yuckiness, violent and manageable hiccups and a feeling of slowed-down-ness. I'm taking this one day at a time, and am trying to stay slow so as not to make too many ups and downs for my mind and body. ...And thank you everyone, you've all provided me with a great support system.

Anyone else:


I've met quite a few people who have been smacked by cancer in one way or another over the last few months; usually people who have a sick relative. FYI people, I might not remember names the next day, but the day I meet you, ask your name and the name of the affected person, and let you know that I'll keep them in my thoughts, I do keep the names and respective battles in my head that day. Usually the next day I have forgotten names (just being honest here) but please realize that I do set time aside every day to think with respect and honor about everyone who has to deal with cancer. So I haven't forgotten you, just your name.

...


OTHER FUN THINGS FROM LATELY AND NOT-SO-LATELY:


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I have a lot of pictures posted on my Picasa Web Album... And in the coming days I will probably get up-to-date by posting the rest of my summer pictures. i will even post a few vintage pictures here and there.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

So I've moved, and so much has happened...

I don't remember the last time I posted here. I thought I'd be a little more regular with my "retrospective" videos etc., but I needed to kinda focus on number one for a while.

So yeah, this summer? I think it kicks ass! That's right... and why? Because I have been able to really be here for my kids, I have a new and nice place (still in Canandaigua), and I've made the most of my "feeling good" time.

Radiation is over.

I have a chemo treatment in a couple weeks though.

So I'll go backwards again. :( But it'll basically be after summer's over.

And when that's over, I'll get on with my life. I'm gonna let it all get out of my system, and fully allow the word "cure" to permeate me. Only after I've processed things the way I need to can I really re-enter the real world. It's kinda scary to tell you the truth. But at the same time it'll be like being born all over again.

And that's pretty cool.

More to come later. About concerts and such.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Do you remember your first bike?

My first bike was some blue, heavy and ugly looking thing with chrome fenders. I learned to ride in Edinboro, PA. I "upgraded" to a 16" BMX frame bike after a year or two, and then got a red Huffy for Christmas when I was 8 and lived in Chagrin Falls, OH.

While I had fun on those two wheeled bikes, I almost had more fun riding a tricycle with a HUGE front tire whenever I was at my Uncle Tom's horse farm in McKean, PA. That thing went anywhere!

My son's fourth birthday party was definitely a success. I first prepared the inside of the house, and then went to Wal-Mart for the obligatory party supplies. I went to Penn Yan, picked the kids up, and after making a pit stop at the house to drop the milk off, we went to go get Jack's birthday dinner... he wanted chicken so we went to KFC and got a bucket. He was very excited about going to a food joint that served exclusively chicken, lol.

We arrived home and went inside. Passing right by all his birthday stuff, he ran straight to the fish tank to check out the new fish. We were like "Jack! Hey, look over here! There's something for your birthday over here!" Finally he realized that there were PRESENTS, and he started to take in the scope of everything.

And there it sat. His new bike. I love seeing the excitement of a little boy with a new bike, it's definitely always a moment worth remembering. So we immediately took it out for a spin before dinner.

Then we ate until we were all almost full and brought out the cake. It was a Spiderman cupcake cake, with more frosting than actual cupcakes. All was going well until I slapped some frosting on Jack's face, and, well, he suddenly wasn't enjoying himself. I'll put up some pictures on this post as soon as I re-hook my photo storage hard drive back up.

Then we went for a night time bike ride, and had a great night together.

Somewhere during the evening it was time to open up presents. I got him a large die-cast Ford Crown Vic, a modular 2-car set of Automoblox (http://www.automoblox.com/) and a Go Diego Go movie (I personally can't stand the little Latin American brat and the incompetent staff and writers who make the show). He also received a Make Your Own Monster Puppet which is this large bag of puppet pieces which allows you to make a combination of goofy looking Jim Hensonesque monsters.


Morning brought more sunshine and a good breakfast.

I may be forgetting some details of the birthday festivities, and if I remember anything, I'll be sure to add it. :)